You know those moments when you feel like you should have more control around food?
And you say things like,
“Why can’t I just stop eating once I’m full?”
”I knew I wasn’t hungry, but I ate it anyway… what’s wrong with me?”
Those might sound like harmless questions, but underneath them is one thought I hear from women all the time—
“I have no self-control.”
And it sounds like the truth.
Except that thought? It’s not motivating you.
It’s sabotaging you.
Why This Thought Is So Damaging
When you tell yourself “I have no self-control,” here’s what happens:
You feel defeated before you even begin
You spiral after one snack or choice that didn’t go as planned
You stop trusting yourself
You prove yourself right—over and over again
That thought becomes your identity… and the cycle continues.
What If You Got Curious Instead?
Instead of labeling yourself, try asking:
What was I feeling before I ate that?
Was I actually hungry—or just tired, stressed, or overwhelmed?
What do I actually need right now?
That’s where everything shifts.
Because when you move from judgment to curiosity, you create space for something new.
New thoughts like:
“I’m learning to trust myself around food.”
“I’m figuring out what actually feels good for me.”
Not just fluffy affirmations—but actual thoughts that build self-trust, one choice at a time.
This Is the Work I Do With My Clients
A lot of women don’t even realize how powerful their thoughts are, around anything, not just food.
They think they need more willpower, a new plan, better discipline or are just stuck, in general.
But the truth is—your thoughts are the root of your results.
This is why I coach the way I do. We slow it down.
We get curious. And we shift the thoughts that are keeping you stuck so you can actually build something sustainable.
So next time your brain wants to throw out “I have no self-control”—pause.
That’s not the truth. That’s just an old thought.
And you don’t have to keep believing it.
Ready to change the story you’re living in? I’ve got a few coaching spots open—click here to learn more.