“Real safety isn’t in playing small or settling for ‘good enough.’ It’s in trusting yourself to take the risk and handle whatever comes next.”
"Just play it safe."
A lot of us grew up with that message, even if it wasn't spoken.
We watched our parents do it. They worked hard, paid the bills, put food on the table, & kept a roof over our heads. Safety meant stability—& that stability meant survival.
Stick with the job-it keeps you secure, even if it drains you.
Stay in the marriage-even if it's breaking you, it's easier than starting over.
Keep the peace-it's 'safer' than speaking your truth & shaking $hit up.
Don't rock the boat-even if you're sinking on the inside.
These lessons weren't just passed down-they're wired into us.
Our brains are literally programmed to avoid risk. Back in caveman days, survival depended on staying with the group, avoiding danger, & playing by the rules.
No wonder so many of us feel stuck in patterns of "just get by."
But here's the thing-those old survival strategies? They're not serving you anymore. They're holding you back.
Playing it safe might feel comfortable, but it's not the same as thriving. It keeps you small. It stops you from growing and discovering what's possible.
What if safety isn't about staying stuck in 'good enough'?
What if real safety comes from trusting yourself to handle whatever happens when you dare to color outside the lines?
You don't have to stay in the job that's suffocating you.
You don't have to keep saying yes when you mean no.
You don't have to keep sacrificing yourself for the sake of "keeping things together."
The woman you want to become?
She's not in the job that's 'safe!
She's not in the relationship that keeps you shrinking.
She's not constantly saying yes when she wants to say no.
But she is inside you-waiting for you to take the risk & trust in your own power to handle whatever comes next.
Xoxo,
Ash
