Have you ever signed up for something, felt motivated AF at first, and then… slowly disappeared? Maybe you ignored the emails, skipped a session, or told yourself you’d ‘start fresh Monday’ (again). And then—poof—you ghosted.

You’re not alone.

The Hidden Reasons We Ghost Ourselves

Our Brains Resist Change – We are wired for safety, and our brains naturally pull us back to comfort. If we don’t recognize this, we might cave to old habits—even if where we are isn’t where we want to be.

Change Feels Overwhelming – When you start something new, it’s exciting. But then reality hits. The old habits, the familiar comfort zones, the resistance. It’s easier to avoid than to push through discomfort.

All-or-Nothing Thinking Kicks In – If you feel like you’re not ‘doing it perfectly,’ the urge to quit creeps in. Instead of adjusting, you think, I’ve already messed up, so what’s the point?

Fear of Failure (or Success!) – What if you do make changes and it still doesn’t feel like enough? Or what if success comes with expectations you don’t feel ready for? Sometimes, ghosting is self-protection.

Emotional Resistance – Change isn’t just about actions—it’s about identity. If you’ve spent years believing you’re ‘not someone who follows through’ (a familiar story of my own), sticking with something challenges that belief. And that can feel really uncomfortable. Insert any old identity you may have of yourself that challenges the person you are becoming, because it can create resistance.

So… What Now?

If you’ve ghosted something that matters to you, instead of beating yourself up, try this:

Get Curious: Ask yourself why you pulled away. Were you overwhelmed? Expecting perfection? Feeling unsure?
Shrink the Step: Instead of ‘starting over,’ pick one small thing to do today. Not Monday. Not next month. Today.
Have Your Own Back: Shame keeps you stuck. Compassion helps you move forward. Treat yourself like you would a friend who’s struggling.

Ghosting doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It just means something wasn’t working for you. And now, you get to figure out what does.

How a Coach Can Help You Break the Cycle

Help You See Your Patterns Clearly – Sometimes, we're too close to our own struggles to recognize them. A coach helps you identify where you're getting stuck and why.
Give You the Tools to Move Forward – Instead of defaulting to old habits, you'll learn strategies that actually work for you—without falling into the all-or-nothing trap.
Provide Accountability & Support – Change feels easier when you're not doing it alone. Having someone in your corner makes a huge difference in following through.

When you stop ghosting yourself, you start building trust with you. And that’s where the real change happens.

If this hits home— what’s one thing you can do today to show up for yourself?

Maybe it’s signing up for 1:1 coaching or a consult..just sayin’! I got you, boo.

Click the pink link to get started!